Which Kind Of Lube Is Right For You And Your Partner?
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A very important thing to understand is what lube is right for you, and the sexual acts you aspire to do. Also, condoms are a contributing factor which needs to be discussed.
Baby Oil: A Recipe For Disaster
First off – baby oil is not a good lube. Sure, it is very affordable, easily accessible, and it lends a helping hand. However, the cons involved in using it outweigh any possible pros. As a general rule, it is best to use personal lubricant designated for sexual activity than just any substance you would find in your kitchen cupboard or medicine cabinet.
That also rules out other cooking oils, massage oils, body lotions, and petroleum-based substances such as Vaseline. This is especially true when wearing a condom. One or two oils which seem to be better in this department are olive oil and almond oil, which have been used for centuries as remedies and body treatments and have a proven track record and history of benefits for the human body.
When using water-based lubes, make sure to check that the lube is free of chemicals like petrol, glycerin, and parabens. Reapply if necessary, and certainly apply more when using thinner kinds of condoms. As one adult film starlet was heard to remark: “you can never have too much lube”.
Water-Proof Is Better -- In Some Ways
Silicone-based lubes work well with water, and have a tendency to last longer because of their unabsorbing quality. However, to remove them you will most likely require soap and water, or a wet wipe. They can be very slippery and sometimes downright slimy, and they remain slippery and slimy until they are cleaned off.
You better watch what you are doing, because you probably would not want to finish an awesome sexual encounter by slipping on some lube. One disadvantage of silicone-based lubes is that they are more prone to cause infections, due to their chemical makeup.
Another disadvantage of silicone-based lubes, is that they cannot be used with silicone toys. They cause the toys to erode and break down, and possibly even create a hotbed for bacteria in the process. Not too delightful. Also, there are some- only some – silicone-based lubes that are not compatible with latex. Make sure to read the packaging and know what you are using.
Oil-based lubes are also ideal for playing in the water. They can feel amazing, but there are some concerns when it comes to oil. For instance, according to studies, there is an increased risk of bacterial infection with oil-based lubes. Oil is tougher to clean, which is why one should exercise caution when using lube based on oil. Much like silicone lubricants, oil-based products are not recommended for use with toys. And, as previously mentioned, lube based on oil should not be used when condoms are involved, as they pose a risk to the integrity of the latex.
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Vaginal Lubrication Explained
The vagina secretes its very own lubricants on a regular basis, and this lubrication greatly intensifies when sexual arousal comes into the picture, and it certainly increases when intercourse is about to take place. Without proper lubrication, be it self-produced or applied, intercourse can be uncomfortable and even painful. Any kind of lube will do, but make sure it is safe. Water-based lubes, combined with natural soothers such as Aloe Vera, are always recommended.
Anal Lubrication Explained
As far as anal sex is concerned, lube is always needed. Always. This is due to the fact that the anus has no lubricant of its own. Unless you want to cause your partner pain, and risk some serious tearing – you will want to use lube, and lots of it. There are lubricants designed specifically for anal play, which aim to give a greater sense of pleasure and reduce any pain that may be caused. Silicone-based gels are highly recommended for anal play, but some water-based ones can be just as good.
Oral Lubrication Explained
The best lubes to use for oral are flavored ones, since they are specifically designed for that use. They can be used with latex condoms or without, and can also be used on the vagina. However, since that area is very sensitive, it is best to be cautious. Sugars, dyes, and any kind of glycerin are not recommended for oral play. Be sure to use sugarless lubes. If your partner gets yeast infections easily, be very careful to remove any lube from the vulva before any further sexual act takes place.
Solo Lubrication Explained
The best and greatest advantage masturbation offers -- in regards to lube, anyway -- is that if you are healthy and have no allergies, you can go all out. You won’t have to concern yourself with anyone or anything other than you and your own pleasure. No condoms, no infections, and no bad reactions to cramp your style. There are many lubes created for this specific task, for men and women, and they can take your solo play where you have never gone before.
Girls, if you are using toys -- water-based lube is the best way to go. Guys, if you are using toys – you cannot go wrong with a water-based anal gel. For the guys out there who may be using a “deathgrip”-like technique, go with something silicone- or water-based which incorporates some additional moisturizer, like carrageenan. Nothing wrong with pleasuring yourself, but chafing and soreness should not be something you have to deal with.